You have lost your daughter from an accident. Losing someone seemed the end of everything. You did not expect that it will happen to you. You are a good father, why take the most precious thing in your life?
You became emotional. You are not prepared to handle your grief. The intensity of your sorrow was painful indeed.
You cried to ease the pain that you were holding inside your heart. What happened to your daughter was difficult to accept. Her untimely demise bothered you . Why was too soon leaving you?
This emotional crisis you have now need a lot of time to heal. It maybe many years before you finally recover. You knew you cannot allow yourself to be grieving forever. You want to go one with your life.
You loved your daughter very much. She was the only one left in your life when your wife leaved you and have her own new family. You knew your grief was a normal response to your bereavement. But sometimes, you are confused and you don't know what to do now that you are alone.
We cannot question our destiny. We all go through it. Some of our known friends were already there ahead of us because their time was up. They were being called to go to the place of no return.
You slowly understood that her death may have a purpose. During her death, there was a great change in your physical appearance. There were times when your body trembled, your muscles become stiff, tired and weak. You felt stressed and awake most of the time in the night even if it is time to sleep. It hurts you deeply.
In order to forget what happened to your daughter, you decided to go to other place for the healing. You went to the house of your father located several kilometers from where you lived where birds and other animals were your best friend. The mountain understand your grief. You began reviewing the direction of your life.
You knew it was not easy but you have high hope that you can manage your sorrow. When you are alone, you seek GOD's help to enlighten your mind and give you enough courage that all this suffering that you have now will come to pass.
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There are procedures to be followed in making a knotted handbag. Use rattan strands. Hold the stick by your left hand. It should be at the right angle of your body. Rest the body at the end of the table or chair.
The rattan strand should be doubled. Tie it around the sticks. Drawn up the knot up very close. Knot the 24 rattan strands, place it an inch apart starting from the inner one of the 2 strands. Knot an inch from the first row of the knot with the strand nearest to the next pair to make an even mesh. Continue the stick across.
Knot another row after another until 10 or 12 rows been made. Slip out the stick by knotting first the two loose strands at the top together. Follow the 2 pairs and so on until the bottom is reach. Join the 2 sides at the bottom by placing them with the meshes. Knot evenly together. Knot the 2 strands from the front and two from the back together each time in a last row of knotting.
By cutting the ends of rattan to an even length is half-way to finish. Wind a strand over a card more than 2 inches wide in five to six times. Slip it off and bind it around several times near the top with the end of the strand, sewing it last with tapestry needles forming a little tassel.
It is a tree that has a height of 5 meters. Its branches has weak spines. The leaves is between 4 to 8 centimeters long, oblong to elliptic with white flowers. It has a spherical fruit about 2 or three in diameter.
It is known to be rich in phosphorus, calcium, iron and vitamin C. Its juice is a nutritious fruit drink. Taking one glass a day can fill up the body with RDA requirements of Vitamin C. Vitamin C was known as germ fighter against infection. A good prevention for respiratory disease. It strengthen the bones and stimulate growth. Best for cold and flu. It becomes an enhancer in some of the menu as the juice is used as additive to marinate meat. Beauty parlor use citrus as cosmetic aid.
It grows well in a cool, elevated area. Sandy soil with rich organic matter is the best. The only disadvantage of this plant is that it is not strong enough to withstand in a water-logged areas. It cannot tolerate too much moisture in the soil, it will die. Raising this plant can be done by seed propagation. To grow citrus plant by using its vegetative parts is highly recommended. Marcot plants can easily bear fruits in a shorter period of time. A few years from planting, it will show its fruit flowers.
Prepare the planting materials at the start of rainy season. Dig a hole 40 centimeters wide and 40 centimeters deep. Put the seedling into the hole and closed the soil mixed with compost. The correct distance should be 6 meters between plants.
Water the plants daily in the early morning to give it enough moisture during the period of its growth. Regular fertilization is a must for the plant to be robust and healthy. Application of fertilizer should be done one month after planting. Apply 50 to 100 grams of ammonium sulfate or urea around each tree. Monthly application is required.
Every year, increase the fertilizer dose. On second year, apply 200 to 300 grams of complete fertilizer per tree every 4 months or 3 times a year. It bears fruit on the 4th year. To increase its fruit yields, apply complete fertilizers of ammophos and potash 500 grams per tree. Apply more from 2 to 3 kilograms per tree in 8 to 10 years.
Proper application of fertilizer is needed for effective application. Mix it thoroughly with the soil. In order to preserve moisture, cover the soil of each tree with dry leaves.
You have to uproot any germinated weeds around the plants to avoid competition of food supply. In the 4th year of growth and onward, apply fertilizer three times a year. First application during rainy season before flowering. Second, two months after flowering and the last after fruit harvesting.
Increase maximum yield depend on the condition of the plant. The plants is susceptible to pest and diseases. Spray the trees with pesticide under manufacturer's instruction. Two spoons of Endosulfan is enough to have 5 gallons of ready mix (pesticides and water) quantity. If diseased by citrus bark borer, use copper fungicides.
Most citrus trees will bear fruits 3rd to 4th year. Extra care should be given during its flowering and harvesting stage. Harvest the plant manually by using water scissor to protect the fruits. Avoid damaging the fruit itself. It can easily rot a few days after harvesting.
Our courage suddenly vanished and started draining our energy due to unexpected damaging situation that happened in front of us. It hit us deeply as we panic and became completely lost. We don't even know the way for our own survival. We don't know how to avoid it. Everything crumbled down. Our world became an empty space. We always wanted to be free from worries but it seemed luck is running out on us.
There are too many people around us under the poverty line. Their lives always hang on the edge of their suffering. They lived in hardship. They understand their present situation and they able to manage it perfectly. They did not expect what has not been theirs. Because they knew they have economic limitation and that inconvenience control them. They may lack from material wealth but their hope were very strong. They are willing to gamble and ready to face their adversaries, the many thorns of their lives.
There were some people loses their faith in GOD. Something happened in the family. Someone lost his life prematurely. The remaining members were now worried how to survive when their only hope leaved them. The mother had no job. The children still very small. She did not have much money left. It was really a sacrifice with strong determination to handle what had been lost.
A man in a mountaineering adventure was ost in deep jungle. He can no longer find his starting point through a trail. He was now confused and afraid that no one can save him in the middle of the forest. His provisions is only good for 2 days hike because of his belief that it is enough for his trip. He have no compass to direct him where to go. What was left of him was his courage to save himself alone. His provisions started dwindling and the moment came what he feared most, lack of food and potable water. The more he walked, the more he was out of range.
What he did in order to survive is to find an alternative foods. He looked the fruits of the trees or nuts from palm trees. There are only few he can find. He tried the young soft part of the palm leaves. It had a bitter taste. He tried to eat repeatedly, swallowing it deeply. His stomach grumbled and refused the food he is not accustomed to store. At least it filled his stomach and ease his hungriness. He found a kind of vine he knew that stored some water inside its skin. He cut and drink its droplets to quench his thirst. He failed to find a creek or spring during the 7th day of his wandering.
He walked further to the center of the jungle. He seen a small creek that glistened the clearness of the water. Its just a miracle he survived on the 10th day of his lost. With enough water and fruits of the trees, it sustained him until he found a village at the back of the mountain. His determination and courage saved him. He survived the most difficult and risky situation in his life from the dangers of the forest, from wild animals that are fond of killing even humans.
It is not easy to become a survivor. There's always danger and frustration. The intensity of the hardship was too much to bear. Sometimes, faith weakens. Hopelessness discouraged the survivor to go on facing the difficulties. Living is not sugar. There are times in our lives that we have to face the reality that living is also suffering. This is a the test for a man to be able to defend himself from the threat to his life.
If you wanted to survive then accept the change of being alone in life. Challenge your sorrow. Give yourself time to rest from your frustration. Let the unacceptable experience to leave you behind. Go on and find the happiness ahead. Living in the past will only put you in a closed shell. It is now time for you to open your hiding place and see the light of day and the beauty of life.
Don't easily give up to any further difficulties. Be strong and face them without fear and without a chance to control your life. Don't let those feeling control you. If you can overcome all of them, happiness is there beside you.
Enjoy your life in the company of others. It is easy to heal a broken heart if you can share your time with them. This is the best therapy to give your life the right path to lead. They can help you ease the pain lurking deeply inside yourself.
Let your mind wander and live in the present time. Focus your direction to the future. Don't look back to the sadness, heartaches and sorrows that you felt in the past. Remembering them often disrupt your intention for a complete recovery.
Don't stop dreaming for a better future. This will guide you to give your best fight to fulfill that expectation you once longed for. Close the pages of your suffering and give yourself a chance to be happy with someone.
Happiness makes your face shines. There is peace within yourself. Your laughter reverberated in the four walls of your house. You elated thinking of something funny. Your heart overflowed with joy. Your smile put you in a wide grin. You failed to notice the small streak of tears in your eyes even if you are not in the time of mourning. What you knew was that you are happy.
But there are no permanent happiness. There's only memories you wanted to keep and remember. Even if happiness can be felt every minute, every hour and every single day but it just passed away when it is his time to bid you goodbye. We wanted to be happy. But sometimes, happiness is very elusive. Not all can enjoy it. You may be happy now but in sorrow later. This emptiness control you again.
We have our own ups and downs. We have our highs and lows. We are not sure what will happen in the future. Maybe this happiness will soon disappear.
But what is happiness, anyway? What it is to us? Why we are always seeking in high heavens even if it is not easy to reach? This emotion give our lives a worthy cause. It is here inside us. It gives us strength and new hope. It lightens our day. Happiness is satisfaction doing something extraordinary and experience the joy of realizing our own accomplishment. We created that emotion believing that it worth a sacrifice.
We are happy because we are in loved in everything we do. We are happy around friends, our family and loved ones, in our work, success and career. Anything that gives a feeling of acceptance.
Remembering is something. All those beautiful memories was in our mind even in the passing of time but always there waiting to be remembered. If we are happy we don't feel the pain. There is always openness in our mind. Any sadness in our heart will go away from us.
There are many ways to be happy. If you wanted to be happy then try to win many friends. Always keep in touch with them. They can share with you their laughter in hearing humorous stories. It gives you to become positive what and where you are heading. It can guarantee your satisfaction changing your mood to be better.
Hearing a song can make you happy. Go and play with your CD player all the kind of music you liked. If you are happy with your family then spare time to be with them. This is your chance to know them better. Play with your kids and have that joy that you never experience before.
If traveling makes you happy then make a plan. But ticket for the trip and choose a destination where you can spend your vacation in a wonderful island with a beach of white sand and and the freshness of the wind in a cool sunny day.
If you are happy with your work, be ready to face all stresses of the day if you wanted to improve your living condition. Don't hesitate to try to reach the unreachable. You may find a gold there at the end of it. Strive hard and you will find that it will not fail you.
If you are happy and in loved with someone, then marry her that changed you. Have your own family and share together whatever hindrances ahead of you. Face them bravely and remove it in your way.
If you are happy to be alone and very fond in reading books and magazines then do it. No one will stop you to do things that makes you happy because happiness is you.
Any action that will boost your energy for your own satisfaction is happiness. Enjoy that happiness while there's still time. Fill your heart all the emotions that you wanted to have and make the most of it. And if you face another kind of challenge in the future, at least that happiness is not wasted. Maybe this time you will understand what happiness means to you and to the rest of the world.
(Updated 01-05-11)
It has a powerful effect in our family if we can give our unconditional love to someone close to us especially our children by looking beyond their weaknesses. Showing too much love will measure one's infinite worth and wide understanding that we are not a perfect person and always prone to mistakes.
We have to do a constructive criticism to our children of their behavior for purpose of reform and change. It should not be done as personal attack by finding fault or strike back. Our only challenge is to give them guidance and better perspective and treat them with respect and dignity.
As parents, we are not allowing our children to do things we know is not right. By allowing it, we are consenting to their mistakes making it hard for us to do the necessary steps to discipline them in accordance to their wrongdoing.
We parents have to give them direction at all times, persuade them to do things right the first time, call their attention and love them deeply. They need to much care from us as a sign that we are not abandoning them. We have to care more and love more, a love that is not selfish, self-centered instead it should be unconditional attention for their welfare.
It is easy to love our children when they are good but when they make mistakes, we care less. They need our love even more. We should love them no matter what they do because that is the role of a responsible parenthood. It does not mean we condone or approve what they did instead we have to help, forgive and love them. We have to build them up instead of tearing them apart nor desert them.
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A Cardinal Red variety of grapes grow well in highlands. How this planting materials is being prepared prior to planting?
Grapes are propagated by cuttings and root stocks. This cuttings were placed in a plastic bag for root germination. In producing new varieties, propagation by seeds are useful but not reliable because of inferior quality if planted, lacking in productivity and less in vigor.
This cutting piece was taken from the parent plants. A soon as it has enough roots, it is ready for planting as a new plants. Cuttings should be taken care of religiously to succeed in growing. Rooting is the critical portion of growing cuttings or seedlings.
Cuttings should originate from a healthy matured vines and canes free from any defect (disease, exfoliated from insects). A diseased plants has poor quality cuttings and the mortality is high. With a good variety and good fruiting history, any cuttings if bear fruits will give the same results from its parent plant in terms of size of the fruits, intensity and variation of color, quality of the berries, its sweetness and the maturity period.
Consider the kind of soil for the cuttings, any climate changes and the degree of care given including the correct application of cultural practices. This factors will be the barometer for success or failure in propagating them. Use primary canes with good quality laterals. The best cuttings should come from a medium size with 3 nodes and well-developed buds. Its inter-nodes of moderate length. A long inter-nodes showing vigorous appearance and with rapid growth are found to be poorly nourished, low in stored starches and accumulation of sugars in addition to being very soft.
While a very short inter-nodes is an indication of a poor growing condition. As a grower, check the condition of the parent plant. Its bark should be in its natural light brown color without any blotches, dead streaks or immature vines. Check the canes if flat or angular and avoid it.
Your cuttings should be 18 inches from the canes. Cut 16 inches from the base to the top bud of good fruiting varieties. Cut it straight across the base while closing below a node. Cut the top of the cutting in an angle away to avoid injuring or damaging the top bud.
Make it a point to avoid planting the cuttings upside down erroneously in the plastic bag for rooting because it will not grow. Store the bundled cuttings of 50 pieces in a cool place not too wet or too dry for a few days before planting. Don't let it left in open air to avoid dryness. New cuttings can be buried in moist sand or sawdust, a cool place in the open.
In bagging, use a perforated plastic bags with rich light soil, the mixture of compost sandy top soil. In grafting grapes, the union of the scion to the stocks is made by the growth of the cambrium layer. It bridges the space between stocks and scion. It has a rapid union if there was a narrowed gap between the scion and the stocks. Graft only a younger plants so that grafting will be a success.
The purpose of propagation by seeds is only for producing new varieties, looking for a pure varieties that will give a productive or better quality fruits.
Pineapple is a tropical crop. It needs a little knowledge by following the correct guide in planting. Pineapple is easy to grow. It can adapt to all kinds of soil. This crop can survive during the period of drought and rainy season. It can grow even in an area below sea level.
Pineapple is propagated by using tissue culture, slip, suckers, crowns. The crown can bear fruits in 2 years while slip is 2 years and 8 months. Sucker will bear fruits in 1 year and 6 months. Crown can be found on top of the pineapple fruits. Slips are shoots on the peduncle below the fruit while suckers is from the attachment of the leaf to the stem.
Planting materials should be of same type and size for uniformity in flowering and fruiting. Expose them in the sun , lining up or more than a week. The purpose is to cure the planting materials. By curing it to prevents rotting.
Alterenate your plowing and harrowing. It should be done 3 times before planting. Putting furrows should be in accordance to distance in planting. Any soil-borne micro-organism should be treated first through fumigation method. Most planting is done in March. In a single row, use a distance of 25 to 35 centimeters between plants or 100 centimeters between rows. In order to have higher yield the soil should have a lot of nutrients to make the plant vigorous, large and in good quality and increases its sweetness.
Apply fertilizer 2 to 4.5 centimeters to the side of the plants. Apply at the base of the older leaves by using urea fertilizers. Use herbicides or manual uprooting of weeds as part of your activities as weeds control. Doing manually is by hoeing or pulling the weeds. It should be done all the time during their period of growth.
Use mulching materials to conserve moisture. Apply organic matter to the soil. Use good herbicides after planting at the interval of 2 months. Application should be done early in the morning. This will assist your manual weeding especially if the area is too big to handle.
Flowering occurred either December or January. You can use flower inducer anytime if needed during the cropping season. In using flower inducer, observe the following:
-Pineapple should have enough functional leaves.
-It should be 1 year old from planting.
-It should not be done during the short-day period from November to January.
-When pineapple produces inflorescence.
-Harvesting can be done at one time.
-Fruiting can be attain 6 months after flower inducing activities.
You can use calcium carbide. For uniform effectivity, use ethylene releasing compound. Almost 100 percent in flowering stage.
There were guys who had the courage to take advantage the weaknesses of a woman who loved and trusted him. A relationship that started from interaction. It was the result of building a feeling due to attraction. Knowing each other fully well, sharing and talking each other until it developed into something more, joining their hearts together. Why so sudden an attraction? Because the man was very friendly, handsome, approachable and talented most women admired? Or, due to something else that she only know within herself.
Most women started to improved their appearance, changing their hairstyle, doing make-over, maintaining an ideal weight to be more pleasing to the eyes of the guys they love.
One story I've known I used as an example for this article.The relationship started with flying colors. He was an American guy proposing relationship to the Asian woman he loved. She was in love with him deeply and honestly. The feeling she had inside her heart, an emotion of trust and confidence hoping they will be together for good. It took 3 years of a wonderful relationship. It blossomed everyday until the day they decided to get married with the refusal of her parents about their relationship. As she loved the guy, she went against the will of her parents without their blessings and protected him all the way.
Then suddenly without warning, it changes everything she hoped.. Her world crumbled down, the decision she made faltered. It all started when another woman entered into the scene. She did not realized that trusting so much has its own price and it did pay, and it was heartache. She made a mistake not knowing that the guy had a hidden secret behind his masked of deceit. All those wonderful moment with him gone with the wind. She lost everything, heart was broken, dreams shattered, tears falling down from the eyes as a sign of pain, anger and lost. She had a relationship that never realized. It pained her knowing that the guy did not truly love her. It hurts her so bad.
It was painful remembering that the guy did not give importance to her feeling. This sad experience cannot be recovered in a single day. The healing may need a lot of time and space especially it started to affect her mind making it hard for her to forget what happened in her life. This feeling of emptiness will continue to eat her existence for some time.
For those who still started to enter into a relationship with a man, be cautious. Don't give too much trust. True behavior will appear sooner or later. Give time for yourself to know him better before accepting him. Check his true intention to you. There were many ways to determine the truthfulness of an intention. Don't dive into a relationship immediately based on the reason that you love him deeply. Be sensible and be smart. If you are not yet sure about your feeling, then don't do, you might regret it later.
If you failed, move on. The pain will continue for a period of time. Give yourself time to heal naturally. Don't try to develop into another bout of mental strain, if possible avoid it. It can only bring back the feeling you wanted to avoid delaying your full recovery. It is the only chance you've got. Get your life back. Don't let that feeling dominate you.
Mixed emotion of hate and love hit you. You did not understand why despite of being a good wife, your husband no longer care for you instead it brought pain inside yourself. You don't know the reason why. You asked yourself, did I missed something? As being a good wife was not enough? What you did was to shed tears, the living memory of your frustration, heartaches and wasted marriage.
It was a wonderful scene seeing you together sharing laughter and dreams when you 2 first meet. Happiness fall around you as if there was no end. You elated hearing that the dream of being together for good is now to be realized. Your happiness was even greater when you have your first child. The child that give you inspiration, hope and courage to face all the tests of time. You don't mind giving your full attention to the child you love even more than yourself.
Then something gone wrong. An unexpected situation that rock your marriage. Promises were broken. It pained you deeply. The memory of a lost love keep bothering your mind even in your sleep. You don't know what to do. It weakened you. It hurts as if there was no life left in you.
You were now alone. The loneliness crept inside you numbing your entire body damaging the very fabric of your personality. You cannot even comb your hair. What was left in you was sadness of being the only person standing in the front of the door waiting and expecting that the happiness you felt before will come back for the second time. But it did not.
Many years had passed, it came into your mind to look for someone you can lean on to share once again your broken dreams. There were many guys but no one win your heart completely. You continued looking day and night with the hope that someone will be knocking at your door, the man that is the answer to your prayers. It was not easy but you tried, and failed again and again.
You did not fully surrendered your life for nothing. You were still hoping that someday happiness will be at your doorstep. You continued looking in every corners of the world doing it with interest that someday, somehow someone will come along who wanted to share with your life forever. You kept on looking and hoping, that was the only effort you tried for the moment.
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